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Thursday, September 9, 2010

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri


Eid ul-Fitr often abbreviated to Eid, is a Muslim holiday that marks the end of Ramadan, the Islamic holy month of fasting (sawm). Eid is an Arabic word meaning "festivity", while Fiṭr means "break-fasting"; and so the holiday symbolizes the celebration of break-fasting after completing the fasting of the entire month of Ramadan (calendar month). The first day of Eid, therfore, is the first day of the month Shawwal that comes after Ramadan.

Common greetings during this holiday are the Arabic greeting ‘Īd mubārak ("Blessed Eid") or ‘Īd sa‘īd ("Happy Eid"). In addition, many countries have their own greetings based on local language and traditions.
Typically, Muslims wake up relatively early in the morning always before sunrise offer Salatul Fajr, clean one's teeth with a Miswaak or a brush, take a shower (Gosul) after Fajr, put on new clothes or the best available, and apply perfume. It is haraam, or forbidden, to fast on the Day of Eid. That is why it is recommended to have a small breakfast (as a sign of not being on a fast on that day) of sweet dish, preferably the date fruit, before attending the special Eid prayer (salah). It is a Sunnah (habit or usual practice) that the Sadaqat-ul-fitr, an obligatory charity, is paid to the poor and the needy before performing the ‘Eid prayer by all those adult Muslims who are required to pay Zakat. Muslims recite the following Takbir in the low voice while going to the Eid prayer: Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, La ilaha ilal lahu wal Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar wa lilla hil hamnd. Another Sunnah of Muhammad is that Muslims should use two separate routes to and from the prayer ground (Idgah). EID prayer is performed in congregation in open areas like fields, squares etc or at mosques. No adhan or iqama (call) is to be pronounced for this Eid prayer, and it consists of only two rakaʿāt with additional 6 Takbirs. The Eid prayer is followed by the khutbah (sermon) and then a supplication (dua) asking for forgiveness, mercy and help for all living beings across the world. The khutbah also instructs Muslims as to the performance of rituals of Eid, such as the zakat. Listening to the khutbah of Eid is necessary (wajib) i.e. while the khutbah is being delivered, it is haraam to talk, walk about or offer prayer. It is then customary to embrace the persons sitting on either side of oneself, whilst greeting them. After the prayers, people visit their relatives, friends and acquaintances. Eidi or Gifts are frequently given, it is common for children to be given small sums of money (Eidi) by adult relatives or friends. It is also common for children to salam parents and adult relatives, they usually get money from the adult relatives or friends, even if the family is middle class or wealthy.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Leona Lewis - Can't Breathe



Damm it .. when i hear this song this morning, it makes me remember of " someone ". Another moody day =_=

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Beach Seafood Restaurant - Kuching

If you guys are wondering where is the place that you can have your meal while you are in Damai area, one of the choice is the Beach Seafood Restaurant that located not far from Santubong Resort and they also provided shuttle van service from the resort to the restaurant with minimum fare. 


Curry Crabs, Japanese tofu with seafood, sea cucumber soup and salted vegetables with bean

The crabs look yummy ..

Midin Belacan - not really my favourite

Kung Bao Chicken - spicy and delicious 

Nicole Phang, me, Minzi Phang and mom

After the sumptuous dinner, again we took the shuttle van back to the Resort and on the way, we have the chance chit-chatting with the driver. Pity leh ppl work till late night while we come here to enjoy. Sigh


One Hotel Santubong - Kuching

It has been a few years back since we have been to Santubong Resort and coincidentally my sister have 2 free overnight voucher so we decided to go on 4th September 2010 (Sat).

The Santubong Kuching Resort sprawls over 25 acres amidst lust jungles, approximately 25 km from the city of Kuching in Sarawak and 40 minutes from the airport. It is a retreat amidst nature nestled at the foot of the legendary Mount Sntubong on Damai Beach, overlooking the South China Sea that provides the most luxurius and spacious accommodation, the hotel offers 380 rooms. Each rooms and suits have a private balcony that gives a panoramic view of the South China Sea. This elegantly appointed rooms are filled with luxurious furnishings, and equipped with modern facilities. Including excellent food and beverage outlets, swimming pool and the beach front is only 5 minutes walk from the resort.

The lobby of One Hotel Santubong

More of the lobby

Deluxe Queen

More of the rooms

Rooms


The next day, we wake up early in the morning around 7.30am and found out that it is raining like cats and dogs outside which spoil our mood to explore the Resorts and we even have to walk in the middle of rain for our breakfast at the Cafe Gunung. Grrr .. I am all wet when we reach the cafe

Cafe Gunung


After breakfast, we decided to take a stroll around the Resort .. enjoying the natural greenish environment - cool and relaxing morning.


Partially view of the Resort


The view of the swimming pool from the main entrance

Well ... overall we have a nice vacation although the time is really short and wish that we can come here again soon ...Yay !

Friday, September 3, 2010

Karma




 Definition of Karma

The Sanskrit word Karma (or kamma in Pali) literally means action. In Buddhism however, karma mainly refers to one's intention or motivation while doing an action. The shortest explanation of karma that I know is: 'you get what you give'. In other words; whatever you do intentionally to others, a similar thing will happen to yourself in the future. Our largest obstacle to understanding or even believing in karma may be time. The 're-actions' or results of our actions show up with a time delay, and it becomes extremely hard to tell which action caused which result. Actions done in a previous life can create results in this life, but who can remember their past life? For ordinary humans, the mechanisms of karma can be intellectually understood to some extent, but never completely "seen".

Why do we believe in Karma ?  

Simply said, if we chose to ignore the workings of karma, we tend to create many problems for ourselves. For example, if we like to have something expensive, but we cannot afford it, it becomes very tempting to steal. If we are smart and attentive enough, we may never be caught stealing. However, by stealing, (according to the law of karma) we create problematic situations for ourselves in the future, like poverty, or being the victim of robbers. Therefore, if we chose to ignore karma, the results of our actions will still haunt us. Every mainstream religion teaches us about the consequences of our actions. The explanations may differ, but does it really matter in the end whether the law of karma causes us trouble or God himself in his final judgement? When we meet with big problems; disease, loss of family or friends, getting trapped in a war or natural disaster. At those times, we suddenly wonder: "Why me?" The law of karma does not look for a reason outside ourselves for our good or bad fortune, it simply explains our own suffering as a result of our negative deeds towards others, and our happiness as a result of our actions to help others. Science itself comes with another argument for karma. In physics. like every other Western science, there is a direct causal relationship between action and reaction. It may be interesting to look at the next explanation of the four laws of karma and see how "scientific" it sounds. 

How Karma works ?

A very good and succinct explanation by Geshe Tashi Tsering in his book The Buddha's Medicine for the Mind: Cultivating Wisdom and Compassion:

"Intention is the most important of all mental events because it gives direction to the mind, determining whether we engage with virtuous, non-virtuous, or neutral objects. Just as iron is powerlessly drawn to a magnet, our minds are powerlessly drawn to the object of our intentions. An intention is a mental action; it may be expressed through either physical or verbal actions. Thus, action, or karma, is of two types: the action of intention and the intended action. The action of intention is the thought or impulse to engage in a physical or verbal act. The intended action is the physical or verbal expression of our intention. Karma actually refers to the action of intention but in general usage it includes the intended action and the seeds that are left in the mind as a result. How do we accumulate karmic seeds? Every physical and verbal action is preceded by mental activity. Goodwill motivates a kind gesture; ill will motivates nasty words. Ill will is the intention to cause mental, emotional or physical harm. Thus, before and during a bad action, ill will is present in our mind. The presence of ill will before and during this act has an impact and influence on the mind due to which a certain potential is left behind. This potential is a karmic seed, a seed planted in our mind by physical, verbal or mental action. The strength or depth of this seed is determined by a number of factors, including how strong our intention is, whether we clearly understand what we are doing, whether we act on our intention and whether the physical and verbal action is completed. Seeds will remain in the mind until they ripen or are destroyed. Seeds left by negative mental events and actions can be destroyed by the four opponent or antidotal powers. The most important of these four powers are regret for the negative act and a firm resolve not to act that way again in the future. Seeds left by positive mental events and actions can be destroyed by anger. Even if we do not act on a negative intention, a karmic seed of diminished potency is still left in the mind. This incompleted seed is easier to remove. If it is not destroyed, a negative seed will eventually produce an unpleasant and negative effect while a postive seed will produce a pleasant and positive effect. Karmic seeds do not go to waste even after one hundred aeons. They will come to fruition when the time comes and the conditions assemble. Actions motivated by the wish to attain Buddhahood for the benefit of all sentient beings and dedicated to that end have a special feature. The positive effects of such an act will be experienced many times over without being exhausted. For this reason, virtue dedicated to complete enlightenment is likened to a magnificent tree that bears fruit every season without fail. Such virtues will bear fruit until Buddhahood is attained."

The Four Laws of Karma

Results are similar to the cause. 
Simply said, when I cause other people harm, I will harvest suffering myself. It is important to note here, that "positive" actions are defined as actions that have happiness as a result; "negative" actions are defined as actions that lead to suffering as a result. 

No results without a cause. 
As is obvious within science, things do not just appear out of nothing. 

Once an action is done, the result is never lost. 
Similarly as above, things do not just disappear into nothing. 

Karma expands. 
Once we have an imprint of an action in our mind, it tends to be habit-forming. As is often said in wars for example, killing the first enemy is tough, but after a handful, one quickly loses count and it becomes "normal". Also psychology often stresses a similar point when e.g. explaining actions of adults from their childhood experiences.

The Four Powers of Purifications

The purification practices found within Buddhism are not unlike the practices applied in many other religions. The most essential mental factor that one requires is sincerity or honesty with oneself. When one wants to purify past negative karma, one has to do some action with the correct motivation. This is summarized in the following Four Powers of Purification:
  1. Power of the Object: One should practice thinking of all sentient beings one may have hurt. Traditionally, one remembers all sentient beings and the Three Jewels of Refuge (Buddha, Dharma and Sangha), by generating compassion for all sentient beings and taking refuge.
  2. Power of Regret: This should not be senseless guilt or self-recrimination, which are said to be useless emotional torture. What is intended here is to examine oneself and one's actions and to recognise that negative actions done in the past were very unwise.
  3. Power of Promise: As a logical consequence of the above, one should promise not to repeat these negative actions. It is good if one can promise to avoid a negative behaviour for a specific time, or at least promise that one will put effort in avoiding repetition. Not being honest at this stage makes the practice useless or even harmful to oneself.
  4. Power of Practice: Basically any positive action with a good motivation can be used as practice. Traditionally in Buddhism, one can practice e.g. making prostrations (throwing oneself to the floor - as a means to destroy pride), making offerings (to counteract greed), reading Buddhist texts (to counteract ignorance and negative thoughts), reciting mantras etc.
It is often explained that one needs to clear a field by purifying it from rocks and weeds, then planting seeds by study and meditation, giving water and fertilizer by doing positive actions, and automatically new harvest will grow.

What Decides When A Causal Effect Will Occur

From: The Four Noble Truths by His Holiness the Dalai Lama:

Question: "Could Your Holiness please explain why the result of karma is sometimes instant and why on other occasions we have to wait lifetimes before the causal effect occurs?"

Answer: "One factor would be the intensity of the karmic action itself. Another factor is the extent to which the various other conditions that are necessary for that karma to ripen are complete, and this is dependent, in turn, on other karmic actions. Vasubandhu addressed this in the Abhidharmakosha, in which he states that, generally speaking, the karmic actions which are the most forceful tend to produce their effects first. If the intensity of a karmic action is euqal to that of another karmic action, then the result of the action with which the individual is most familiar tends to ripen first. However, if two karmic actions are equally forceful and equally familiar, then the one that is committed earlier tends to produce its results first."

What Is "Good" and "Bad" Karma ?

Interestingly enough, the Buddhist answer to this question forces you to think and decide for yourself.
Positive actions are defined as their result being a pleasant experience, negative actions are defined by their unpleasant results. Obviously, the results mentioned here are unlikely to come immediately (so-called 'instant karma' is considered rare), instead the karmic result may take lifetimes to ripen. For example, if I steal an ice-cream and enjoy eating it afterwards, the enjoyment is not a karmic result of stealing the ice-cream; it may be the result of helping someone else. The karmic result of stealing an ice-cream is an unpleasant experience, like when something will be stolen from me.

What Can I Do To Remove Previous Negative Karma ?

Nobody likes to suffer, so we all like to rid ourselves of negative karmic potential. There are several possibilities, and in fact we may need to try and apply all of these methods as much as we can:
  • To avoid having negative thoughts that lead to negative actions in the future, we need to observe and control our own thoughts and behaviour, and destroy our negative attitudes.
  • Similarly, we can observe/study (meditate) our own mind and encourage positive thoughts that lead to positive actions.
  • We can avoid negative karmic seeds to ripen by purifying it, using the four powers of purification. Although this does not eliminate the negative karmic actions, it can avoid the results to occur.
  • Ultimately, when we realise emptiness directly and remove all our delusions, we are not under the control of past karma anymore.
To begin with, I need to understand that I cannot immediately change my present situation, but I should understand that:
  • The reason why I am experiencing this is only due to my own actions in the past, my mind filled with delusions or positive thoughts, and the right circumstances for the karma to ripen.
  • I can chose to have a selfish reaction to my situation and create my own suffering in the future.
  • I can chose to have a reaction considering others' welfare and create happiness for myself as well in the future.
  • If I react without thinking, it is easy to create negative results for the future, and even make that a habit.
  • The others whom I like to blame for hurting me, are merely the circumstances that make my negative karma ripen.
  • Understanding karma means that I have full responsibility for everything that happens to me in the past, present and future.
  • Positive thinking and acting will do others and myself much more good than being negative and acting that way. 
Hmm after reading the above, what do you think ? Let us take some time to think .. have we create a bad or a good karma for ourselves along the way...

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Ghost Month - 7th Lunar Month in Chinese Calendar

The seventh lunar month in the traditional Chinese calendar is called Ghost Month. On the first day of the month, the Gates of Hell are sprung open to allow ghosts and spirits access to the world of the living. The spirits spend the month visiting their families, feasting and and looking for victims. There are three important days during Ghost Month ie On the first day of the month, ancestors are honored with offerings of food, incense, and ghost money - paper money which is burned so the spirits can use it. These offerings are done at makeshift altars set up on sidewalks outside the house. Almost as important as honoring your ancestors, offerings to ghosts without families must be made, so that they will not cause you any harm. Ghost month is the most dangerous time of the year, and malevolent spirits are on the look out to capture souls.

This makes ghost month a bad time to do activities such as evening strolls, traveling, moving house, or starting a new business. Many people avoid swimming during ghost month, since there are many spirits in the water which can try to drown you. The 15th day of the month is Ghost Festival, sometimes called Hungry Ghost Festival. The Mandarin name of this festival is zhōng yuán jié (中元節 / 中元节). This is the day when the spirits are in high gear. It’s important to give them a sumptuous feast, to please them and to bring luck to the family. Taoists and Buddhists perform ceremonies on this day to ease the sufferings of the deceased. The last day of the month is when the Gates of Hell are closed up again. The chants of Taoist priests inform the spirits that it’s time to return, and as they are confined once again to the underworld, they let out an unearthly wail of lament.

                                     
 
               

Y2J 神木與瞳 - 寬恕 Kuan Shu



A beautiful yet meaningful song on forgiveness. How many of us can really forgive one's mistake and past ? Let us learn from the lyrics and take some time to reflect on the meaning of "forgiveness"